I don’t know why people think being single is a disease. Perhaps you don’t realize it yet because you’re too pressed to be in a relationship. So pressed that you’ll be in the wrong relationship.
No woman, who is THAT pressed to be in a relationship is going to make a sound decision- using good judgment when it comes to choosing a relationship.
So why not take this time, to ONE get healed from your previous relationship, TWO forgive your ex, THREE work on your inner self, FOUR love yourself and FIVE, which should-be FIRST – BE CELIBATE (if you fell off the journey).
Being healed is important. You can’t live your best life if you’re still storing hurt, anger, and grief in your heart. An unhealed heart can never properly love or be loved. A heart that hasn’t been healed often times intentionally hurts others. You know the saying, hurt people, hurt people. Spend time purging those negative emotions and pulling up those bad seeds that may have been planted in your heart, so that it can love from a pure and healed place.
Forgiving your ex is equally as important. Forgiving someone frees you from them. They no longer hold any control over you. Forgiving your ex actually helps you regain the POWER over your own life so that you can move on. FINALLY! I know this may be a hard thing to do, but think about it like this: forgiveness restores your peace. And it’s all about YOU during this season of your life. Why allow an ex to ruin that? They’ve taken up enough your time. My advice: Release and move on.
Listen. The healthiest people in life are the ones who take care of themselves. Mind, body and soul. So putting energy into those things will yield a whole being, a whole person. That’s the person that will attract God’s best for them when the time is right. Dig deep, confront generational curses and denounce soul ties.
Ladies, learn to love yourself. I can’t stress it enough. Loving yourself looks like this, setting standards and keeping them, it looks like pure happiness with oneself, it looks like patting yourself on the back. Stop discrediting yourself and comparing yourself to others. Loving yourself means being your own best friend versus being your own worst enemy. Bottom line: loving yourself is just as equally important as loving others. So do it and do it unapologetically.
Lastly- if you don’t get anything else, get this. Being single isn’t the time to mingle if you know what I mean. You shouldn’t be “mingling” anyway unless you’re married but I’ve seen time and time again where women think when they’re single, they can do whatever they want with whoever they want. This is the farthest from the truth. Being single doesn’t give you a pass to go buck wild, no ma’am. Learn to put some respeck on your name and keep your legs closed. Saving yourself for marriage is the best decision you could ever make. One it shows your commitment to God and His will and two it shows the respect that you have for yourself and your temple. Men don’t respect us because we don’t respect ourselves. Use this time of singleness to recommit yourself if you’ve fallen short. Like I’ve said in the past, just because you’ve done it once, twice or a hundred times, doesn’t mean you have to continue. Removing sex also helps you stay sober-minded. Your NO to sex is power statement! Go ahead and give yourself permission to be that powerful woman.
As you can see there are some things you must face and overcome during this season of your life. I know it seems like a lot but trust me, being single is not something you want to rush through. I promise you, a better you will attract a better him.
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