Dealing with bitterness

bit·ter·ness- anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly; resentment.

Okay Sis and Bro (for those what read) let me keep it real funky fresh, A1, 100 with you.

I am literally fighting with every fiber in me to keep BITTERNESS out of my heart.

Thank you for allowing me to be honest with you. It feels so good to be able to tell someone.

I don’t ever want to be the one that acts like she doesn’t go through anything or isn’t going through anything. So here’s what I’ve been dealing with:woman on beach

These last past few weeks I’ve been really battling with myself. I’m like Lord I don’t want to allow bitterness to make a home in my heart (it will if you let it). So  I’ve been fighting off negative feelings like I’m Bruce Lee.

Don’t know if you’re bitter, click here for a list of characteristics.

Listen, the enemy ain’t playing fair so I got to suit up (Ephesians 6). Bitterness is one of those sins that can affect other areas of your life if you don’t deal with it. It’s literally like a germ that can infect your heart if left untreated. And since we’re kingdom citizens, we need to make sure we treat this as soon as possible. We can’t let it rob us of the joy and peace Jesus died to provide us.

So after spending some time researching bitterness, here’s some steps I came up with to rid myself of bitterness.

  1. Re-evaluate the situation(s). Take a second look.  I’ve been trying to figure out what really is bothering me about the situation. I’ve asked myself questions like: what really upset me? Can this situation be fixed? What about the situation still bothers me? I’ve dived deep. I let go of my shame, so that I could brutally honest. Even if it was me who caused it all. What I learned is that,  you can’t heal what you cover up.
  2. Block it. For some this may be temporary. For others this may be permanent. However, during this time to protect my peace and sanity, I’ve decided to unfollow people or situations that are causing me to feel bitter. If you don’t want to be burned then don’t play with fire. Plain and simple, I’m not going to torture myself by looking them up on social media. This isn’t going to help heal my heart.
  3. Forgiveness. Tip: Only do this when you are truly ready. God is big on forgiveness. How can I ask God to forgive me, if I can’t forgive others. (Matthew 6:14-15) Check out my other article I wrote about forgiveness by clicking here.
  4. Live in the now. I realized that when I continue to talk about the situation. I get more and more angry. (Anger is a sign of bitterness) So, I decided not to keep rehashing it or even talking about it with others. I want to move on and live in the freedom Jesus died for. Bitterness is like a jail. It literally feels like robbery of life. So I am making every effort to change the way I think (check out bible plans on the YouVersion bible app about renewing your mind) so that I don’t get caught up in a vicious cycle.
  5. Get in the word. God’s word is the antidote to all of our problems. Bitterness is nothing new. So find scriptures that speak to your heart. Remember them. Use them to combat against any ugliness that may be trying to settle into your spirit. These are two scriptures I’ve been meditating on: Hebrews 12:14-15 and Ephesians 4:31-32).  I also pray. I’ve asked God to change my heart, even  if the situation doesn’t go my way. Prayer is the portal to God, and what I realize is that I can’t do this in my own strength. So I have to depend solely on God to get me through this.

Listen, I’m not saying this is the “biblical” answer. However, I do know that we can’t afford to be sitting around bitter not when there are souls that are depending on us to overcome this.

I thought about my situation as I was writing and I recognized how deep of a cut it really was. Bitterness is sneaky like that, you’ll think it’s nothing until it has manifested  into something much bigger.

So let’s not wait for it to do that, let’s begin to heal our hearts today.

Need support? Click here. I may be going through but I want to be there for you. I pray that as we pour out our bitterness, that God pour in His peace.

I’m praying for you. I would appreciate if you would pray for me too.



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